Of Sad Demons and Cruel Angels

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In some ways, I can barely remember what life was like before I joined Mute Prophet. Such incredible things have happened in the last five years, it almost feels like a completely different existence.

It’s been like a rebirth. But it hasn’t always been easy – and I feel it’s necessary to do what isn’t usually done, and share these stories with you.

Have you ever heard the Epica song The Phantom Agony? It’s partially about being so emotionally numb, so unable to feel, that part of you doubts you’re real at all. You feel like a ghost. Your perception of yourself and the world around you is so dulled, you’d swear your day-to-day life is a dream that you won’t be able to remember upon waking. You aren’t you, you’re just a disembodied spirit observing someone who happens to look like you.

That describes something I struggle with on a daily basis, a very rare mental state where depression and PTSD intersect, called Depersonalization.

I’ve written so many songs about this feeling, but I think Pleasures of the Blade – one of the songs Kevin sent you the other day – sums it up best: “Crying for but one, one moment when I’m truly living. All I need is one, one instant when I know the difference between pleasures of the bed and pleasures of the blade.” It’s so damn hard sometimes, to keep fighting when there’s nothing but numbness.

I was beaten half-to-death, raped, and almost killed. And the guy who did it somehow convinced people that abused him. To this day I’m not sure how he explained away my being hospitalized from the injuries, but…oh well, I guess sociopaths can convince anyone of anything. But suddenly everyone I knew thought I was a monster, and by extension, they thought the same of Kevin and Chris for siding with me.

It left me in a really dark place. I drank heavily, I abused drugs, I cut myself for the endorphin high, and I fantasized almost hourly about swallowing my entire medicine cabinet. In the end, singing for Mute Prophet was the only thing that gave me a reason to keep living. Suddenly all we had was our music, and y’know what? That was just fine.

I remember trying to rig up a booth to record vocals in my bedroom. We broke the doors off my closet, stood them up by taping an old microwave to the outside, filled the closet with clothes, and glued heavy blankets to the insides of the doors. Here’s a picture of it, featuring Kevin back when he had skinny arms and short hair!

None of us really had the money for a more professional setup, but I honestly cherish the memory of making due with what we had. We would stop at nothing to make music, least of which would be less than ideal equipment. That’s also why I dress the way I do – to prove to myself that I don’t need to hide after everything that happened. PTSD can often cause the instinct to hide away and avoid attracting attention – if you’re visible, you’re not safe. And I will not give in to that false instinct.

So I wear makeup and busty corsets and weird-ass cage bras, anything to force myself to stand in the spotlight – and I deal with the subsequent accusations that I’m using sex appeal to sell our music – and at the end of the day, it actually helps me SO MUCH.

In fact, judging from the number of hate comments I get for “flaunting size-E tits,” I’m fairly sure it would actually be EASIER to sell music if I dressed a bit more conservatively. But we’ve all talked it over, and…well, we’re no stranger to taking the hard road. Every time I put on a corset I feel like it’s another step toward healing my PTSD. It adds another layer of healing to a band that’s all about healing. So it’s well worth the price of the occasional bad first impression to be true to our art!

It’s an amazing thing, a sort of glue that binds Mute Prophet together despite our separate life experiences, this goal of turning tragedy and pain into something triumphant. Ultimately this band is something that literally saved my life, giving me an outlet to transmute things I would otherwise never have been able to overcome, into something amazing. Suddenly the horrible things that happened to me don’t hurt quite so much.

And we’ve even been able to find an audience – including YOU. Musicians have no other way to judge their impact on the world, other than how listeners receive their music and their story. You show all of us that we aren’t alone, and after everything that’s happened, I don’t think words can convey how much it means to be able to connect with people like you now.

So please, leave a comment below and let me know how you feel about this post, or even just to say hi. It would mean a lot. Like Kevin said before, this is the best way for us to connect since his health kind of prohibits touring as much as we wish we could.

Thank you again for reading, and please do leave a comment below if you feel like saying hi ❤️

And of course if you feel like checking out our latest album “Quietus of Autumn”, which is a collection of many of the songs that helped me through this, you can do so here.

80 Comments

  • Brian Jansen says:

    Be strong sweetheart, fuck others opinions of you because yours is the only one that matters in the end, I know how it feels to be destroyed by those you thought you could trust, I’m a grown man who still has issues years after my assault because it was by police officers and we know it’s hard to avoid them and people treat men different, we’re not. I don’t claim to have the same scars you carry but I do understand pain with no outlet, keep belting your emotions for us and be you!

    • Adrienne Odenthal says:

      I’m so sorry to hear about the experience you had Brian. It does really suck that people often treat men differently, double standards are really shitty. Thank you so much for the supportive comment ❤️

  • Lawrence Hembd says:

    Well,I must say youve got balls.Not many people would consider sharing as much as you have.I understand its helping you work thru that shit,and I think that fuckin rox.Use the music.Let it use you as a way to get out,into peoples ears..I myself,am a fellow soldier(LarrySkaree/CoffinSmasher/Sickinside@ReverbNation.com)..You guys are on to something.But you gotta remember to be true to your heart with your music..it will/does show..and we do see..dont compromise,and dont trip on those shows that only have 8 people(and 3 of em are your friends)stick with…Im playin your music for my friends….Pt.Orchard Wa..

    • Adrienne Odenthal says:

      That’s beautiful advice ❤️ We’re definitely very true to our hearts with the music we make, I don’t think any of us can imagine doing anything else at this point. Thank you so much for reading – and I like what I heard of your music 🙂

  • Brian Porterfield says:

    Hi Adrienne, thank you for your story. When finding that one thing that can get you through the hardships, weather its depression or even generalized anxiety disorder which is what I suffer from. Including hearing voices and seeing shadows. I write poetry that reflects what goes on to cope with every day life. I absolutely love what y’all do with your music and it helps to put me in a more stabilized calmness.

    • Adrienne Odenthal says:

      That means the world to hear that our music helps with your anxiety! Thank you SO MUCH for telling me that ❤️ And I think that’s beautiful that you’re able to channel it into poetry.

  • Brian Banner says:

    Hi Adrienne. Reading what has happened to you and what you suffered in your life you should be really proud of how you have dealt with it also how far you’ve come since . Keep it going you have an amazing voice love to hear more . Keep it up .

  • Jason Koski says:

    It takes a lot to go through such a life and to write about it afterwards. Kudos to you!

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